Have you ever been so afraid of failing at something that you decided not to try it at all?
Or has a fear of failure meant that, subconsciously, you undermined your own efforts to avoid the possibility of a larger failure?
Has fear lead you to sorrow, apathy, guilt and shame?
Many of us have probably experienced this at one time or another. The fear of failing can be immobilizing – it can cause us to do nothing, and therefore resist moving forward. But when we allow fear to stop our forward progress in life, we’re likely to miss some great opportunities along the way.
Fear of failure is one of the strongest emotions as it can take over our body and lead us in a ‘descent into hell’ by getting us in a spiral of suffering vibrations and then our energy goes down, down, down…
In this descent into hell, fear makes us first contract into anxiety apprehension and worry. We become fearful and reluctant to try new things or get involved in challenging projects or follow through with goals.
This makes us suffer and we contract even more and by doing so we move to the next station below: Sorrow. We feel sorrow, misery, loneliness, a state of agony. At a certain point, the pain becomes so overwhelming that we contract even harder and we fall one level below into numbness, apathy.
Apathy leads us to a feeling of fatigue, lassitude, disinterest, blues… It paralyses us and stops us from doing the things that can move us forward to achieve our goals.
This leads us inevitably to the next station below: guilt. At this level of suffering our inner criticus, our inner self-saboteur gets activated and starts lynching us with blame, culpability, regrets. Our self-confidence drops dramatically, and we start commonly using negative statements such as “I’ll never be good enough to get that promotion,” or “I’m not smart enough to get on that team”, “I don’t deserve that person/job/house/life”.
And then we reach our next destination in our descent into hell: shame. Here we reach the bottom of low self-esteem and we are overpowered by the low vibrations of humiliation, disgust and self-reproach. This is the critical point into our descent to hell, because if we go lower then we end up into self-hatred and self-destruction.
The good news: we don’t have to stay forever in this sate of being. There are ways to get out of there. Next week I will tell you about few simple and efficient strategies to fall graciously in hell and raise gloriously to heaven.
But before, tell me: what about YOU? How is your ‘descent to hell’?
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