In one of my last bootcamps I saw her: she has beautiful breasts, shiny face, soft eyes with a playful gaze. I’ll call her Saskia. She keeps her beautiful breasts ‘looking down at the floor’ like we say in Arabic. I asked her few times to put her chest up so that her ‘breasts look up’, but Saskia kept them gazing down at the floor. And she is not the only one.

The majority of the women with nice breasts (prominent) I encounter during my work, keep them ‘looking down’.

They learned, since teenagerhood, to make their ‘outspoken’ breasts look ‘absent’, ‘invisible’. They have been drilled to keep their ‘above intelligence’ down. I often shout during the dance: ‘intelligentie omhoog’ (Dutch: ‘intelligence up’). They giggle, smile back at me and put their intelligence up for a short while, before they lower them again.

Women with ‘high intelligence’ have been trained, even indoctrinated, to lower their breasts to not ‘provoke’ (men). No matter whether the women are Muslims, Christians, Jews or atheists, the message is the same: breasts down!

Why do men feel provoked by women’s breasts? What is wrong with women’s breasts? They are just breasts! Why has this men’s problem become a women’s problem? And even worse: why did women have made this men’s problem their problem?

At the end of the 2 days bootcamp, Saskia came to me and shared with tears in her eyes ”Thank you for saying that I need to put my intelligence up; and that I have beautiful breasts. I learned the opposite, especially from women”. Saskia is unfortunately not the only one, I hear this bullshit all the time and it really pisses me off.

Especially when women do that to other women. Why do women associate ‘proud breasts’ with provoking men or wanting to have their attention? What’s wrong with having a ‘proud posture’? Why can’t women stand other women’s beauty? Why are women ‘castrating’ other women most of the time?

Putting your breasts down is bad not only for your body posture and
lower back; it’s also not esthetic as it makes your upper body look deflated; and it makes you feel ‘collapsed’. By dropping your breasts, you drop your sense of pride and self-confidence. Try while you are reading this: drop your chest for about 5-10 minutes and feel how your self-confidence drops. Now lift your intelligence for 5-10 minutes and feel how your self-confidence increases.

The body contains an incredible intelligence; unfortunately the female body has been indoctrinated to shut down this intelligence. Women from all cultures and religions have learned to ‘lower’ their body’s ‘feminine intelligence’/breasts because it’s a disturbance to the ‘patriarchal order’, to the ‘men’s order’. Through the centuries, women have internalized this kind of attitude and went further by oppressing other women’s bodies, femininity and sensuality.

So my beautiful ladies (and gentlemen), let’s stop this kind of abuse: raise your breasts and say: Yes, I am a woman! Yes, proud to be a woman! And Yes I have breasts! Get over it!

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    9 thoughts on “Raise your Boobs & Rise!

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      Victoria says:

      Hey Kaouthar! First off, I LOVE YOU for writing this article! This is a topic most people trivialize. However I have a question for you because I seem to be on the opposite end of “prominence.” Here in America, women are not just shamed for having full figures, if you don’t have a voluptuous body type you are constantly attacked by capitalized pornographic imagery that would make any average young woman not feel “womanly-enough.” Personally this is something that has made me feel deflated since I turned 13. Turning 21 in a month, I would like to know how to be proud of your chest when all you want is for it to develop further? Thanks! -Victoria

      • Kaouthar Darmoni
        Kaouthar Darmoni says:

        Dear Victoria & Ania, merci for your sharing. Unfortunately the bombardement of outside judgements and pornification about how women should look like have been internalised. We have to say “no” to these violent voices and listen to our inner wisdom (voices). We, women, have to raise our chest/boobs up -no matter small or big- raise them up from our solar plexus: zone of will-power, self-confidence, of “here-I-am”, with shoulders to the back. This body posture gives a signal to the brain for confidence. You can try for a few seconds the difference between your breasts and posture down and notice how you feel, and then your breasts and posture up and notice how you feel. Do you feel the difference? You can really change the way you feel with body posture and how you feel from the inside radiates to the outside!
        Let us know how this works for you. Would love hearing from you.
        Boussa
        (kiss in Arabic)

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      Ania says:

      I developed the same posture for exactly the opposite reason! Not having breasts while other girls my age already did and later having them smaller than others, made me feel ashamed and look down too! So I think it is true not only for the big breasted!

      • Kaouthar Darmoni
        Kaouthar Darmoni says:

        Dear Victoria & Ania, merci for your sharing. Unfortunately the bombardement of outside judgements and pornification about how women should look like have been internalised. We have to say “no” to these violent voices and listen to our inner wisdom (voices). We, women, have to raise our chest/boobs up -no matter small or big- raise them up from our solar plexus: zone of will-power, self-confidence, of “here-I-am”, with shoulders to the back. This body posture gives a signal to the brain for confidence. You can try for a few seconds the difference between your breasts and posture down and notice how you feel, and then your breasts and posture up and notice how you feel. Do you feel the difference? You can really change the way you feel with body posture and how you feel from the inside radiates to the outside!
        Let us know how this works for you. Would love hearing from you.

        Boussa
        (kiss in Arabic)

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      Lisa Schenk says:

      Ah… this is so beautiful! I am writing about the Wild Woman at work because I too am tired of the constant repression of the feminine in our world! But then, I read this and realized that even I have been “boob shaming” my own 15-year-old daughter. Her breasts are growing into a fabulous DD and I continue to tell her to cover them up… No more!!! Thank you for your deep wisdom! Lisa

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      Lisa Schenk says:

      Ah… this is so beautiful! I am writing about the Wild Woman at work because I too am tired of the constant repression of the feminine in our world! But then, I read this and realized that even I have been “boob shaming” my own 15-year-old daughter. Her breasts are growing into a fabulous DD and I continue to tell her to cover them up… No more!!! Thank you for your deep wisdom! Lisa

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